Rock Bottom: It's How You Feel, Not What Happened
Nov 24, 2025
The Rock Bottom Myth
We've been sold this narrative that you need a dramatic catastrophe before you're allowed to change your relationship with alcohol. A DUI. A health crisis. Lost relationships. Some kind of undeniable proof that things have gotten "bad enough."
But what Becca told me in our conversation is this: Maybe your rock bottom is how you feel, not actually what's happened to you.
She didn't wait for something terrible to happen. She just knew she didn't want to feel awful anymore. And that was enough.
The Power of Sober Curiosity
What I love about Becca's story is that she didn't set out to quit drinking. That felt too scary, too permanent.
Instead, she got curious. She started tracking how much she was actually drinking, how much money she was spending, and how she felt when she tried to moderate.
And here's what she discovered: moderate drinking wasn't fun. When she limited herself to two drinks, she thought, "What's the point?" She wasn't getting the numbing effect she was looking for—she was just uncomfortable and waiting to go home.
That's when she realized: if drinking wasn't enjoyable unless she was blacking out, and she couldn't black out without consequences, then what was she even doing?
What Nobody Tells You About Quitting
Becca didn't sugarcoat her journey. She was honest about the fact that quitting drinking didn't immediately solve all her problems—it made them impossible to ignore.
All those feelings she'd been numbing with alcohol? They came flooding back.
But removing alcohol also created space for real healing. She finally addressed her OCD and started medication that actually worked (she couldn't feel the effects of her SSRI when she was drinking). She started walking daily. She went to therapy.
Her marriage transformed too. Her husband quit drinking a few months after she did. They had to relearn how to connect without alcohol. There was this moment she shared about their kitchen island—the place where they used to drink together every night after work. For the first few weeks after they both quit, they'd still find themselves standing there awkwardly, not quite knowing why. It was pure habit.
But they broke those patterns together. They started going on walks instead. They became completely different people—but they grew together.
The Gift She Gave Herself (And Her Daughter)
Becca quit drinking three years before becoming a mom. And when she talked about this on the podcast, she got emotional.
She said she honestly doesn't know if she would've even become a parent if she'd kept drinking. Parenting is hard enough without being hungover and anxious every day.
Now her daughter is growing up in a home where alcohol isn't present. She's learning a completely different way of experiencing life, emotions, and connection. She's seeing her mom model boundaries, self-awareness, and the courage to live differently than the culture around her.
That's the gift Becca gave not just herself, but her entire family.
What Becca Wants You to Know
If you're waiting for permission to change your relationship with alcohol, here it is:
You don't need to wait for something terrible to happen.
You don't need to prove your drinking is "bad enough." You don't need anyone's validation.
If you feel awful, that's enough. If you're reading this thinking, "Maybe I should look at my drinking," that's enough.
Your rock bottom can be as simple as: I don't want to feel like this anymore.
Start With Curiosity, Not Commitment
Becca's advice? You don't have to quit forever. You don't even have to use the word "quit." Just get curious:
- Track how much you're drinking for a week
- Notice how you feel in the mornings
- Try moderating and see if it's actually enjoyable
- Add up what you're spending on alcohol
- Ask yourself honestly: Is this adding to my life or taking away from it?
The answers might surprise you.
The Transformation Is Real
Working with Becca over the past several months, I've seen firsthand the person she's become through sobriety. She's clear-headed, boundary-setting, deeply present, and unapologetically herself.
She's built a business helping wellness and alcohol-free brands tell their stories. She's raising a daughter who will never know the version of her mom who felt awful every morning. She's surrounded herself with friends who share her values.
And it all started because she was willing to be honest about how she felt.
Nothing dramatic had to happen. She just had to give herself permission to want something different.
Want to hear Becca's full story? Listen to our conversation on this episode of Sober Fit Life, wherever you get your podcasts. We dive deep into her journey from working in alcohol sales to building a life of freedom and presence—and why curiosity was the key to everything.
